From now on: the blogs will be at wordpress: Check out our new Cuddlyfamily Blog!

From now on: the blogs will be at wordpress: Check out our new Cuddlyfamily Blog!

haha it got POSTED in the papers on sunday, jadi RM50 winner lagi! waaahhhhh.. don't pray-pray! :) It did get edited for length, but quite the thrill u know.. small thrill lah but still.. let's see if we get any money HAHAHAHA

CONGRATULATIONS to Ai Lian!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) (her blog should be linked on the side I think.. if not it's on min's blog)... soooo exciting. no:3 coming! (well in another 8mths plus lol). D was thinking we are prob going to take sistah- hood too far and wanna get pg altogether! we've coined the phrase Ovary Conspiracy.. Wonder if that would make a good script or short story. hahaha..

right then... I must try and blog more :)

I decided to write into the star (using their citizen's blog) in response to that letter by CTH (mine isn't going to be the first response prob. lol).

heres what I wrote in case it doesnt get approved:

Reading today's Star brought a smile to my face and in turn gales of laughter. Why, you may ask? I read one particular letter addressing the "trend" of an increasing number of househusbands, claiming that wives must submit to husbands and that a househusband would irreparably damage the mind of a growing boy. I have to wonder (Im going to make an assumption myself by presuming the writer is male), how on earth he could come to this conclusion?

If a man helps out in the house, takes an active part in raising his kids, does this make him less of a man? Whether it's some of the time, or full time, isn't it good that he cares enough about his family to want to be there for them? I would say more power to them! It is hard enough trying to overcome many people's perception of women homemakers ("lazy, nothing to do all day but sit around, wasting education etc"), more kudos to the males among us! With more and more concerns reg: how our children are turning out these days, the househusband (and/or wife) should be applauded for wanting to be at home for their kids, rather than a stranger raising them. Not all of us have maids and even if we did, all should do that part (as J. Tai mentioned in her letter.)

as for the wifely submission, does the word "partnership" ever occur to the writer? It should be a give and take relationship, talk over big decisions and so forth. Any relationship that has one side claiming dominance over the other can't be a very healthy one, no?

I for one am very proud to be a stay at home mum, it's not always easy but I like to think Im raising a future generation of men who think nothing of helping out in the house, who thinks helping their mum with their younger siblings, and everyone does the chores, regardless of age/sex, etc are the NORM... After all, they learn from the example of their father who doesn't bat an eyelid, whether its changing a nappy or whipping up a tasty meal.

I think the idea of flexitime or work from home ideas where both parents can be at home for the kids would be ideal but I think Malaysia is not quite there yet, perhaps in the future :)

It is quite amusing (dare I say a little disconcerting perhaps) that someone could relate being a househusband to being less "manly" or effeminate or gay even.. as if to say a real man (read: neandarthal) does not help his wife in any way, he doesnt do chores, pick up kids, anything. I would beg to differ. It takes A REAL MAN to acknowledge he is human with emotions, ups and downs and to be a part of his family' world, whether its chores or helping with the kids..

I wonder if CTH is actually married and what his wife really thinks... now that would be an interesting idea..

Letter to the editor in the Star today.

You have just got to read it and laugh.. Doesn't say much about the views of the writer, is it a he? A misogynistic, "I AM A MAN, UGH. YOU WOMAN" type? Or are they just... err... homophobic? I had to tell the girls all about this letter, and Don too (who now has a blog, YAY!)..

I guess he doesnt view housewives/homemakers of any kind as worth much. Wife must submit to hubby pulak.. What happened to working together? Or heaven forbid, actually doing household things together, teaching the kids that? Gasp! What a novel concept...

What say you?

it's been a long time I know.. but so muhc happened lately, soo bz :(

Our buddy Sree's dad MGG Pillai (see http://www.mggpillai.com) passed away suddenly last friday and this poem was written in memory of this larger than life man. I didnt know him as well as Don but he was a kind, earnest and articulate man. Our love and sympathies go out to his family..

To MGG Pillai

His legacy is not one of wealth and jewels but of something far richer

He was a man with integrity and an uncompromising attitude

that brought the admiration of all.

He was a loving husband and father

One who tried to install the same strength of character

That was the very essence of his character.

He was a respected journalist

A man who firmly believed in the truth and a fair society

A man of principle and a rare breed in today’s society.

It was a great loss to us all at his passing.

Our hearts go out to his family

A man of great heart,

This was just one side of MGG Pillai,

A true son of Malaysia.

Angelia Ong

On the occasion of MGG Pillai’s passing

April 29^th 2006.

havent blogged for ages, prob wont be able to till the new year.

Happy holidays everyone and may 2006 be a great year!

CF

Very very busy of late.. D away in germany too.. :( kids doing well.. even my breadmaking etc is improving!! hahaa

Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Fitri and Selamat Deepavali too!!!

CF

Do you know this woman? If your name is Olaf (or Olav), you are a regular at starbucks in Singapore (river valley or something), Norwegian, abt 6ft 3, blonde, male, occ. wears blue shirt, black pants and brown shoes (dude, get her to take you shopping)... Go talk to my mate here.... anyone else, shhhhh... :D